Compassionate Letter to Myself
Everybody has something about themselves they don’t like; something that causes
them to feel shame, insecure, or not “good enough.” Please think of something that
tends to make you feel bad about yourself (an unhealthy habit, your appearance,
relational conflict, etc.)
From a Friend to Yourself
- Now think about an imaginary friend who is unconditionally wise, loving and
compassionate. Imagine that this friend can see all your strengths and
weaknesses, including what you don’t like about yourself. This friend recognizes
the limits of human nature, and is kind, accepting, and forgiving.
- Write a letter to yourself from the perspective of this imaginary friend, focusing on
the perceived inadequacy you tend to judge yourself for. What would this friend
say to you from the perspective of unlimited compassion? And if you think this
friend would suggest possible changes you should make, how might these
suggestions embody feelings of care, encouragement, and support?
- After writing the letter, put it down for a little while. Then come back to it and
read it again, really letting the words sink in. Feel the compassion as it pours into
you, soothing and comforting you. Love, connection and acceptance are your
birthright. To claim them you need only look within yourself.
From Yourself to a Friend
- Write a letter as if you were talking to a dearly loved friend who was struggling
with the same concern that you are. What words of compassion and support
would you offer? Then go back and read the letter, applying the words to
From Your Compassionate Self to Yourself
- Write a letter from the perspective of your own compassionate self. This part of
you would like to help you because he or she cares deeply about you. The
intention behind your compassionate self is “I love you and I don’t want you to
suffer.” Put the letter away and read it to yourself later on.